Our current times force some of us to slow down, and with the new-relaxed pace lay new excuses. Instinctively, babies stretch their limbs upon awakening from sleep or a great nap. As we gain more control of our instincts, we suppress the natural urge in favor of scurrying out of bed moments faster. I consider this the first act of denial of base human needs. Self-care, me-time, whatever term used to describe these much-needed personal refuel sessions, take time at least once per week if not per day to give back to yourself. For me, it comes in the form of journaling, reading, or listing (yes, making lists brings me joy.) This private nurturing allows my mental cells to revitalize and reconnect to the moment by clearing away anything lurking in the corners of my mind.
Trying to juggle it all is not needed right now, so this is the perfect time to practice mindfulness and learn the art of asking for help. Sure, you are trying to get your wedding day on track after being in the first wave of reschedules, but at this time, have you noticed how priorities shifted? Intentional is one word I can use to describe. Shopping mindfully, starting your day mindfully, finding healing rituals in every process. When preparing for your big day, it’s not the new habits you need to start. Remember, the things you had time to do before life got so hectic? And the mammoth task lists taunting you like a procrastination sash draping across your shoulders? That hero complex forcing you to believe that the only person who can get it done right the first time is the same force driving you into exhaustion. Learn how to give directions and accept assistance from those who desperately want to lighten your load.
How do we find ways to add self-care and mindfulness into these uncertain days? Look back, maybe it was the summer post-graduation when you gave yourself time to figure life out. Perhaps it was that Costa Rican holiday you spent disconnected from gadgets and engaged with those people and things in front of you. What did you make time for that you let slip away in the haze of busyness. Maybe it meant sipping tea on your patio before heading into your day or strolling through the neighborhood before opening any email. Or possibly it is finding some new way to process through meditation or yoga. Remember your former good habits, and hopefully, when life buzzes back on track, you can find time to keep these returned habits in place.